Did you learn your lesson?

 I came across this poem twice and I would like to share it with you.  At one point in our lives we will be able to relate to this poem.

"There is a hole in my sidewalk"

by Portia Nelson

Chapter 1

I walk down the street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I fall in.

I am lost...I am helpless.

It isn't my fault.

It takes forever to find a way out

Chapter 2

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk

I pretend I don't see it.

I fall in again.

I can't believe I am in the same place.

But, it isn't my fault.

It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter 3

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I see it is there.

I still fall in...it's a habit.

My eyes are open.  I know where I am.  It is my fault.

I get out immediately.

Chapter 4

I walk down the same street

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I walk around it.

Chapter 5

I walk down another street.

 

We are all creatures of habits.  The moment we wake up we are on auto-pilot mode.  A lot of the things we do are repetitive in nature and we are no longer conscious of what we are doing.

When we are confronted with a problem, be it personal or professional, we see things based on our perspective.  We do not actually see the world as it is.  We see it based on who we are and that includes our filter from values, belief system, among others.

When a problem keeps happening and we are not changing our thinking process, the problem would recur.  Albert Einstein said it so well, “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them."  More often than not we are not aware of our thinking patterns.  So how do we get out of our thinking rut, so to speak?  Is there a creative way to help us?

Here are some useful ways that you may want to consider:

1.     Discuss your pressing problem with a trusted friend.  One advantage of doing this is you will get a different perspective from a friend who is on the outside, looking in.

2.     Develop the habit of reflection at the end of each day.  Ask yourself what you did right and wrong.  From the experience, go further by thinking of what do you need to start doing?  What needs to be stopped?  What should be continued?  Write down your reflection in your journal.

3.     Use this question to lubricate your creative juices.  "What is a better way of addressing this issue or challenge?

If you have another technique or you want to share your experience, let me know.

What is your Ikigai?

 My best friend asked me, through SMS, what I am being busy about.  I told him that I am reviewing for my next training and I will be helping another trainer by giving feedback on how the training is conducted.

As I went on with my task, I got another SMS from him asking "don't you ever get bored at your job?"

In Japan the word  ikigai means your reason for getting out of bed. I remember seeing a commercial of Nescafe' using the concept of ikigai.  In that commercial the viewer is asked "what is your reason for getting out of bed?"

When looking at the concept of ikigai, it begs the question "what are you passionate about?"  In the book "How to Ikigai" by Tim Tamashiro, he posits four things to consider:

1.  Do what you love.

2.  Do what you're good at.

3.  Do what the world needs.

4.  Do what you can be rewarded for.

The first two questions will be related to one's interests, talents and skills. Tamashiro calls this half ikigai.  Full ikigai is connecting your interests, talents and skills to something bigger like how it will impact the world and eventually how you will be rewarded by it.

Finding your ikigai is soul-searching.  One needs to be alone in reflecting in reflecting on your purpose or mission.

It took me several months to write down my ikigai.  I love calling it My Personal Mission Statement.  Attending the workshop The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People  compelled me to examine my life and seriously consider what my purpose is.  I edited my draft a few times until it was recommended that I keep it to one sentence so I can easily memorize it.  Finally I cam up with "to facilitate the growth and development of people around me."  This is not limited to training employees but it will also encompass the growth of my friends and loved ones.

What is the difference between someone doing a sloppy job and an extraordinary job?  When people know their raison d' etre, the passion can be felt by anyone.  Because it flows from within it cannot be faked.  If you try to fake it, people will know even if you are a mile away.

Whatever is your job, do not let your job description define you. "You are not your job.  It is the person who makes the job," my previous boss used to remind us.

If you have not discovered your ikigai yet, ask yourself as your alarm clock sounds off, "What is my reason for getting up?  What is my purpose?"  Trust the process and it will come.  Or, like Steve Burns of Blue's Clues would do, he would sit on his Thinking Chair armed with his handy dandy notebook.